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Unequal Sexual Yokes

In 1 Corinthians 6:14 we are reminded to “not be unequally yoked with unbelievers”. The picture is from the ancient practice of farming using two oxen. They are bound together with a heavy wooden beam across their shoulders so they can pull the plow behind them. But if farmers did not put oxen of equal size beside each other, they could  not pull evenly and the plow veered to the side.

The Apostle Paul is reminding us that if followers of Jesus Christ marry non-followers we will see things go off-track very quickly. Marriage ties two people together and if they are pulling unequally, it can end in disaster. That is just how it works.

Let me apply this picture to the sexual desires and preferences of single Christians considering marriage. In my many years of relationship counseling, I have seen many unequal sexual yokes and these cause things to go off-track very early in marriage – many times on the honeymoon. I see six different unequal yokes:

1. Dissimilar Beliefs about Sex: As much as Christianity is trying to raise its children with the idea that sex is wholesome, healthy and desirable for believers, this has only begun to happen recently. For centuries, sexuality was barely tolerated Read the rest of this entry